Waiting dating marriage
Question: Dear Carmen, I am currently engaged to a wonderful, holy man! When we first started dating he really started things off in a very prayerful note.At first, I was the one struggling more with chastity but He held the reigns and helped set a good tone for the nature of our relationship.It’s like a child waiting for a treat with terrible impatience.
Every couple preparing for marriage should read it!
And as you mentioned in your email, chastity does not end with marriage – this resource will help to guide you through chaste love in marriage as well. It is a novel: the fictional account of a young couple striving to live out chastity in a courtship relationship.
A lingering hug or a kiss is like a spark which wants to be fanned into a flame. They decide they will not kiss (again) until marriage.
The more a couple expresses their love for each other in these “little” and “harmless” ways, the more they are stirring their passions. While that choice is not for everyone – for those who do choose it, they find themselves incredibly blessed! Again, the goal is to not stir your hearts to desiring something for yourselves now that is not yours to have!
Josh Harris’ books are filled with wonderful and practical ideas and many examples of other couples who struggled with the same issues you struggle with.
His writings help you to see how every expression of physical intimacy seeks consummation.
If we are not able to consummate our love in the act of the marital embrace – we should refrain from stirring the passions within us to do so.
Josh’s books help to keep a practical perspective on things.
Fantasizing your future relationship is wrong – because if you are not married yet, then you are not married! I suggest you guard yourselves now to not set a pattern for sexual fantasy if that is a problem for either one of you.
Guard what you are exposing yourselves to in terms of entertainment: movies, books, magazines.
And whatdoes for so many people is to help them see the reward that comes with living out a chaste courtship and engagement.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating